Fuel Your Success with Self-Care

Fuel Your Success with Self-Care

I had a whole other topic planned for this week’s post. I even have a draft. But as I sat down to finish it, my mind went blank. Problem-solving thoughts began to float in my mind, “Okay, I only have about two hours right now. Maybe I could check some other things off my to-do list. Or maybe I have an old post I wrote forever ago and never shared.”

And suddenly I realized two things: 1.) I sat down this morning to stay focused and create a blog post, and that is exactly what I’m going to do. 2.) The way I accomplish that goal is up to me, and it’s okay not to finish the blog post I originally planned on.

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Welcome to Adulthood: It’s Time to Parent Yourself

Welcome to Adulthood: It’s Time to Parent Yourself

I recently watched an amazing TED Talk entitled “How to stop screwing yourself over” where Mel Robbins introduces the concept of “parenting ourselves.” She says that as children we had someone there to stop us from playing too many video games, eating lots of junk food, or from staying inside on a beautiful weekend day. Our parents set boundaries and guided us with our best interests in mind, and they pushed us when we would not have pushed ourselves.

Just think about it. When you were little, would you have come inside from playing when the streetlights came on and washed up for dinner all by yourself? Heck no! You did it because you knew it was expected of you.

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My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

One of the terms we learn in co-active coach training is “the saboteur,” which is the voice in our head that wants to maintain the status quo and gets louder the more we take steps toward fulfillment. That voice can take on many forms: it can be mean and berate you and tell you you’re not enough; it can ask you, “who do you think you are?”; it can be overly practical and convince you that there just simply “isn’t enough time or resources for all that.” Sometimes the saboteur voice pretends to be self-compassion and says, “It’s ok, you can procrastinate one more day – it’s been a long day so far.”

It is very helpful to learn to identify that voice so you can set it aside and focus on the Truth of who you are and what you want. It takes practice, patience and all kinds of self-love, but it is worth it.

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What Happens When Pursuing Your Dreams Leaves You Heartbroken?

What Happens When Pursuing Your Dreams Leaves You Heartbroken?

“Living a life of purpose, mission, or service can be intense, sometimes heartbreaking and exhausting, and at the same time enormously fulfilling. The paradox of fulfillment is that it is possible both to have a sense of inner peace and to experience an outer struggle at the same time.” - Co-Active Coaching by Kimsey-House, et al.

When it comes to broken hearts, most of us are familiar with the romantic sort. But what we don’t always think about or experience is the kind of heartbreak that comes from pursuing our dreams.

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The Freedom Of Releasing Perfectionism

The Freedom Of Releasing Perfectionism

Since reading Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown, I’ve been thinking a lot about vulnerability and shame, and how shame from society, each other, and ourselves shapes our identities.

Perhaps one of the most profound realizations I had was about perfectionism, or achieving some form of perfection that we develop in our minds. For those of us who are intimate with the pursuit of perfection, we know how pervasive it can really be.

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