Momentum is Powerful

Momentum is Powerful

When we accomplish something at the edge of our comfort zone, we tend to feel relieved when it’s done.  We can also feel energized.  Now that we climbed this hill, the slightly bigger hill in the distance seems more manageable.  

Conversely, when we don’t accomplish something we attempt, it’s easy to feel diminished.  If I couldn’t climb this hill, I can’t even imagine trying to climb a bigger hill.  I don’t trust my abilities as much as I thought I did.  

The blessing and the curse is that we tend to gain momentum in either direction.  

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My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

One of the terms we learn in co-active coach training is “the saboteur,” which is the voice in our head that wants to maintain the status quo and gets louder the more we take steps toward fulfillment. That voice can take on many forms: it can be mean and berate you and tell you you’re not enough; it can ask you, “who do you think you are?”; it can be overly practical and convince you that there just simply “isn’t enough time or resources for all that.” Sometimes the saboteur voice pretends to be self-compassion and says, “It’s ok, you can procrastinate one more day – it’s been a long day so far.”

It is very helpful to learn to identify that voice so you can set it aside and focus on the Truth of who you are and what you want. It takes practice, patience and all kinds of self-love, but it is worth it.

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