My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

My Confidence is Being Turned Against Me

One of the terms we learn in co-active coach training is “the saboteur,” which is the voice in our head that wants to maintain the status quo and gets louder the more we take steps toward fulfillment. That voice can take on many forms: it can be mean and berate you and tell you you’re not enough; it can ask you, “who do you think you are?”; it can be overly practical and convince you that there just simply “isn’t enough time or resources for all that.” Sometimes the saboteur voice pretends to be self-compassion and says, “It’s ok, you can procrastinate one more day – it’s been a long day so far.”

It is very helpful to learn to identify that voice so you can set it aside and focus on the Truth of who you are and what you want. It takes practice, patience and all kinds of self-love, but it is worth it.

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The Freedom Of Releasing Perfectionism

The Freedom Of Releasing Perfectionism

Since reading Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown, I’ve been thinking a lot about vulnerability and shame, and how shame from society, each other, and ourselves shapes our identities.

Perhaps one of the most profound realizations I had was about perfectionism, or achieving some form of perfection that we develop in our minds. For those of us who are intimate with the pursuit of perfection, we know how pervasive it can really be.

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